Showing posts with label goddess. Show all posts
Showing posts with label goddess. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Interview with Dolphina


The Introduction
California-based belly dancer, Dolphina has shimmied across continents and into the homes of many with her Goddess Workout line of DVDs.  She's the star of four belly dance DVDs and one burlesque DVD. She's been featured on Sex and the City, taught numerous celebrities, and appeared on Conan O'Brien.  She's also a published author of a belly dance book, and a producer of a series of belly dance CDs.  To learn more about Dolphina, her products, and her company, GoddessLife, you can check out her website.

The Interview
At times, Dolphina's approach to belly dance has been considered controversial by the belly dance community.  She's been criticized for being too light on technique and too heavy on hippie-love and sex appeal.  Contacting her for the interview, I wanted to find out what she had to say herself.

Alessandra: Let's start at the beginning.  How did you originally get started with belly dancing?
Dolphina:  I grew up with a very different kind of lifestyle, as my parents moved our family to Morocco to live in a commune.  From an early age, my sister and I were street performers.  My sister did contortions and I balanced items on my head.  But my first real training was when I was 17 and I moved to NYC and started taking actual classes.

Alessandra: You've lived in quite a few places, correct?  Where all have you lived?
Dolphina:  I was born in San Francisco, moved to Morocco as a child as mentioned, then to New York as a teenager.  I also lived in the Caribbean for one year and one day, where I had my near fatal boating accident. (You can read about the incident here, as well as the rest of her time spent living on an island.)
Alessandra: With living in all these different locations, have you found any of them to be particularly good or particularly bad places to be a dancer?
Dolphina:  All places bring out different aspects of the dance.  New York obviously has all forms of dance.  There is dancing everywhere in NYC and it's taken very seriously.  It's a very competitive city to be in.  I think different places honor different parts of the dance, so it really depends on what you are looking for.

Alessandra:  Throughout your dance career, what dancers have either inspired you in the past or are currently inspiring you?
Dolphina:  My very first inspiration was a Berber woman dancing at a souk in Morocco.  I was entranced and mesmerized by the beauty of her and her dance, to the point that I got actually got separated from my parents, only to declare, when they finally found me, that I wanted to marry her!  Other inspirations to me have been Ibrahim Farrah, Samara, and Jehan Kamal.

Alessandra: You have a successful line of videos called the Goddess Workout series.  In fact, it was the very first belly dance DVD I ever owned.  With this, you've created your business and DVDs around the concept that "every woman is a goddess".  What made you decide to pick this direction and mission?
Dolphina: I believe that true leaders create more leaders, not followers, and this is where my purpose lies.  I want to create more leaders among women and empower women.  I look at the purpose of my DVDs as being an introduction.  A place where women can feel good about their bodies and gain confidence.  My gift is not about teaching perfect dance or technique, but it's about having the dance spread and allowing women to embrace their femininity.  I want to make ordinary women feel extraordinary.  Many dancers who start with me choose to continue on with another teacher for more in-depth training later, and that's perfectly fine.  That's just not my mission. I look at my DVDs as not just a dance or workout class, but as an escape.  Whether you're a stay at home mom or a CEO, I wanted to give women a feeling that this is time for themselves.  Not a time to try and be perfect.  Women have enough of those pressures in their daily life.  That's my real passion. 

Alessandra:  What has been your biggest challenge with either belly dancing itself or running a belly dance based business?
Dolphina: I've come to terms with it by this point in my career, but dealing with other belly dancers judging and being mean and critical.  I've had other dancers decide that I was doing something "wrong" by focusing on my message of empowerment, rather than technique or history of the dance. But I think there's room for all of us.  We should all be sisters in the dance.  As dancers, we are already on the fringe anyway, so it's a waste of energy to compete or argue.  We should band together.  When you put yourself out there, you're going to get both positive and negative reactions, so I choose to focus on the woman who wants what I have to offer.  I once had one woman tell me I was capitalizing on her culture, but I don't feel that anyone owns belly dance.  I don't look at it as a piece of pie that a few people take until there's none left.  I believe there's room for everyone to express themselves in some capacity, and that's the Goddess Workout philosophy.  It's not about competing or comparing, but growing together.
Alessandra: So what do you feel is the role or importance of technique?
Dolphina:  Belly dance is an expression of the woman who is dancing. Ideally, I'd like to see both technique and expression in a dancer, but if I had to pick one I'd go with the dancer who has something to say.  Dance is unique to the individual, sometimes it's sexy, sometimes it's playful.  Sometimes it's a moment in a song where you have your breath taken away.  Overall, it's just very personal.

Alessandra:  Belly dancers usually seem to have some funny stories related to performances, audience members, and belly dance in general.  Anything come to mind for you?
Dolphina:  (Laughing) Oh, like crazy showgirl stories?  Oh yes, they happen all the time.  One time I was playing my finger cymbals and one flew off my finger and took off like a flying saucer.  It hit an audience member's water glass and broke it.  Everyone thought I did in on purpose and was clapping.  Another time I was dancing in a place with a bunch of Christmas lights dangling down and I ended up with them tangled in my hair. I was decorated like a Christmas tree and I was stuck.  Literally stuck.

Alessandra:  And the final question I've been asking everyone.  What advice would you give to beginning belly dancers?
Dolphina:  Keep dancing.  Dancers can be very enthusiastic when they first start and want to gobble it all up and devour everything.  But take your time.  When things seem right and easy, go in that direction.  If it feels hard and that your forcing it, then back off.
Alessandra:  And what about experienced dancers looking to turn professional?
Dolphina:  If you're ready to make that leap, you have to jump.  When you are pursuing any dream, you're never going to feel ready.  But you can't improve on something until you try it.  In belly dance, there's always concerns over competition.  But I believe that there's always a way to make it work for you without stealing from another dancer by finding your own place in the dance.  And last I would say, find a mentor.  Either a dancer or a business owner, but someone you can look up to and ask questions.






Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Visualize, Embody, Transform


Countless times it's been said that a picture's worth a thousand words. Amazing images keep falling into my lap this month. Images that inspire and uplift me. Images that make me want to create, dance, and transform. I am compelled to share.

All images speak differently to each viewer. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What do the images below say to you? How can you envelop them into your life and your dance this month?

Do you want to embody flowing grace?


Abandon your sense of self and completely surrender?


Dance on air like a fantasy creature?


Speak your truth and aim for the heart?


Be reborn as a goddess?



Be sure to follow me on Pinterest (link to the right) for more amazing imagery.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

How to Be a Goddess


As a certified Goddess Life instructor, I like to think that I know a little bit about being a goddess. Case in point: I have a closet full of sequins, I never say no to cupcakes, I think champagne is divine, and have been known to wear a feather boa for no particular reason. However, there are certainly days when I don't feel like a goddess. How about you, ma cheri? Not feeling like a goddess lately? Well, being a goddess happens to be the official birthright of all women. In fact, the official motto of Goddess Life instructors, as created by Dolphina (who is also pictured above), happens to be "every women is goddess". So here's a few easy tips to put some heavenly pow back into your day.

1. Wear something that sparkles. Nothing says celestial being like a bit of bling. So don some costume jewelry, glittery eyeshadow, or a sequin dress to turn up your shine.

2. Get a massage or spa treatment. When not busy ruling the cosmos, causing mischief, and flirting with mortals, you can naturally find a goddess being pampered and waited upon. Imitate her and schedule some time into your week to let others cater to you and watch your inner radiance develop along with outer.

3. Lay around on your divan.  When have you ever heard of a goddess multi-tasking, writing a to do list, or otherwise running around like a chicken with her head cut off? I'll tell you when - NEVER. So put down the blackberry, the blue tooth, and your iPad and indulge in doing nothing. Nap, read, kill time. Yes, as a goddess you even have the power to kill time. By the way, don't have a divan? Then a couch will substitute quite nicely.

4. Stop saying and thinking negative thoughts about yourself, your body, or your life. Could you ever hear Aphrodite saying her thighs are to big? Or imagine Athena moaning that she bombed a job interview? Or Hathor lamenting she's a bad dancer? Certainly not! A goddess is the embodiment of confidence, so ixnay on the self-depreciation.

5. Eat that piece of chocolate. Nothing says goddess like indulgence. Goddess are know for taking what they want. All things in moderation are okay. So if you've got a craving, no need for denial.  Enjoy it. As the Charge of the Goddess says, "all acts of love and pleasure are my rituals".